How far can you go?

By now, you’ve probably realized this book is not just about seducing women.

It will, of course, give you unparalleled success in winning them – whether you’re single and want to seduce every second girl who comes along, or find someone special for a long-term relationship – or even if you’re married and want to add loads more passion into your relationship.

But it goes far wider than that, because you can apply just about everything in this book into all other areas of your life - such is the pervasive influence of NLP.

It’s also about influencing others

Virtually everything in the book applies equally to all walks of life – your opening remarks, your small talk, your ‘flirting’, sliding in suggestions, seeding words, embedding commands, splitting their objections, and even creating your own seduction/selling stories.

And these techniques will work just as well whether you're helping a friend deal with a problem, asking for a raise, negotiating a deal, applying for a loan, getting out of a traffic ticket, standing for election to public office, scoring a discount on your new video, teaching kids to stay off drugs, or even making that not-so-pretty girl at the supermarket checkout feel better about her looks.

Here’s what you must remember. People think they think with their heads. But they invariably make their decisions with their hearts. And you now have a very sophisticated set of tools to influence those decisions.

The skills you’re now in command of

You know how to read body language and facial expressions. This means you know far more about what people are thinking and feeling than they think you know. This is a great skill. The video practice drills and the field drill gave you some wonderful knowledge. Do the drills again, but this time in a work context, and you will gain a tremendous understanding of people.

And try the field drill again in a work-related situation. I like exhibitions and trade shows for this, where you get loads of people selling and being sold to. And try the eating areas where groups of people get together to talk things through. Train yourself to observe, observe, observe.

By now you are becoming an interesting and articulate conversationalist. You’re learning how to use your voice to make your sentences lively and compelling. And you know how to get and hold people’s attention.

You know the importance of paying attention to others and making them feel important.

You’re becoming better and better at small talk and helping people feel at ease.

Your flirting skills will still come in handy because flirting is not only about sex. It’s about teasing up people’s desire for what you have to offer.

You have excellent rapport skills which allow you to connect with people at a deeper unconscious level – where they’ll be more inclined to accept what you say because it ‘feels’ right. Use these skills. They’ll give you a tremendous advantage over your competitors.

Your exceptional persuasion skills

You’re competent at getting a woman into a sizzling state, and then amplifying that state. How easily can you re-think this and apply the same techniques if you were selling a car to someone, or a refrigerator, or a business proposal?

This is how great salesmen work, and all of us are salesmen in one form or another – even if you tell me you’re a research scientist, and ‘that’s got nothing to do with selling’. But think about this. One day you might want to apply for a research grant where you’ll have to ‘sell’ your ideas. Then, your ability to persuade and influence could make the difference between getting or not getting the funding you want.

You already know how to write scripts that seduce. What about creating a small repertoire of scripts that SELL? – and, especially, how you could bridge and build them into a conversation, and bring them to life with sensory-rich words?

And take the chapter on seeding erotic thoughts. This technique is just as useful with selling or motivational thoughts or whatever – whether you’re a salesman or bank manager or lawyer or social worker or doctor or teacher.

Also think about how much use you could make of reference anchors in real life. If you can use them to direct a woman’s focus, how effectively could you use them in association with a product or service?

Plus, you have skills of conversational hypnosis that most other people can only dream about. You’ve mastered compound suggestions, time and adverb presuppositions, tag questions, embedded commands, conscious-unconscious dissociation. And you know how to weave these artfully and elegantly into your language.

Go back and re-read the book and mentally translate all the conversational examples from seduction-speak into work-speak, and you’ll see the principles all apply just as much.

Running people's picture shows

I would like you to keep this in mind. Your job as a seducer/persuader/ influencer is to run other people's mental picture shows. It's NOT about trying to get them to ‘like’ you by impressing them with your knowledge or your skills. And it’s NOT about trying to influence them with logic, because logic doesn’t reach the emotions, where we all make our decisions.

Think about what you're saying. What mental pictures are you causing the other person to make? How do those pictures connect with the last lot you got them to make? And how do those pictures set up the scene for the next lot you want to introduce?

All this means you've got to know what you're doing – whether you’re trying to seduce that gorgeous blonde or sell a used car to that little old lady. And that means you need to start whatever you set out to do with a clear and defined outcome.

And then, when you've worked out how to take people from A to B, what are you doing to make their picture show bright and colourful and compelling – so they want to go along with you? Have you juiced up your voice for maximum appeal. Are you using your words to create vivid and powerful imagery?

And, especially, are you using your new found skills of conversational hypnosis to flood your suggestions into all parts of their mind?

If you're merely letting your sentences just drift along, blown this way and that by the chance winds of conversation, then you're missing out on all the best opportunities life can offer you – whether it's that blonde or that little old lady.

Think about what separates a president or prime minister or a Fortune Top-50 CEO from the ordinary guy down the street who’s always struggling to make ends meet.

It's the power to influence.

You now have that power. I urge you to enjoy using it.

 

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Chapter 66
Taking Your Skills Beyond Seduction

The Master Seducer’s Handbook